Workplace conflict between staff, if left unchecked, tends to escalate – but most managers have a natural inclination to dismiss it.
Employees are often promoted to management positions because they have particular skills – which are usually technical as opposed to interpersonal – and a certain level of resilience.
They tend to cope well with workplace conflict situations themselves, so they often assume others will, too.
People in management positions can tend to view conflict among their staff as trivial, because they themselves have quite a resilient approach to incidents and issues, so [they] don’t understand what the big deal is for their staff.
Although they are well placed to help workers identify and overcome the source of their conflict before it escalates, they are more likely to “walk away from it”, tell staff to simply “grow up” and “get over it”, or label it as a “personality clash”.
The personality-clash label is a common excuse to ignore conflict.
It’s almost like, ‘Well, we can’t do anything about it if it’s a personality clash’, but what I see happening is that – if we assume it’s two people that have this personality clash – it just tends to niggle away at every interaction they have with each other, and then it spills over to having a negative attitude in the workplace.
Soon they’re finding fault with each other and with each other’s work. And what I tend to see is that those people who are in conflict start to build up their own little group of allies, so all of a sudden you’ve got a split down the office with one group supporting one person and another group supporting the other person.
I also know of situations where people have been in conflict and it hasn’t been the people in conflict who have left, but the people external to the conflict, because they can’t cope with what’s going on in the workplace and the fact no one’s dealing with it.
Although some workers will be able to resolve conflict without assistance, if they could have done that in the first place then it wouldn’t have come to the manager’s attention..
For this reason, all conflict that a manager notices – no matter how small – should be addressed.
Beware of forced settlement of workplace conflict
Another unhelpful tendency is to force resolution.
Many managers who do deal with workplace conflict take a directive, authoritative, settlement-oriented approach.
This is unlikely to achieve a lasting resolution.
Very often managers will sit two people down and go: “Right, you did this, she did that, he did that, whatever, OK,” and consider the matter closed.
And that’s where the conflict escalates, because they haven’t really dug deep enough to address the actual issue, and there’s been no transformation of the dispute or transformation of people within the dispute.
The [employees] haven’t actually come to the agreement or understanding themselves. It’s the manager who’s directed it and seemed to get settlement.
But because conflict is one of those things where, if you try to push it down in one place, it surfaces somewhere else, it needs to be dealt with, not suppressed. Ensuring your managers receive adequate conflict management training can help reduce these incidents.
Take action before workplace conflict escalates
In most cases, conflict that escalates and damages productivity and morale could have been prevented.
In the work I do, I’m called in because the conflict situation has been dismissed and hasn’t been dealt with properly…
As I go through a grievance investigation, I think this all could have been avoided if the manager had dealt with the conflict in the early stages.
I’m going through and going, ‘Well why didn’t you deal with it here?’ and the next stage, ‘Why didn’t you deal with it there?’ And it’s just been swept under the carpet.
The manager could say he or she was “too busy” to address the matter, yet five minutes spent helping to improve the communication or the insight between these two people could have saved so much time and headache and stress.
Facilitate improved communication
The key to resolving conflict early is improving communication and helping each party to consider the other’s point of view.
A lot of conflict is caused through misunderstanding.
Teaching employees to communicate assertively, and ask questions that clarify meaning, can help them to better understand each other and avoid wrong assumptions.
This Workplace Conflict Resolution article, written by Catherine Gillespie was originally published in ‘hrdaily‘ in March 2011.