Why I Was In Conflict With You

Why I am in conflict with you… I am in conflict with you because I don’t trust you. I don’t trust you because you have done and said things that contradict what I think is acceptable. Behaviours (actions and comments) that I find acceptable are ones which: - Show me respect - Support my efforts - Align with my values - Do not make me feel uncomfortable or confronted - Are displayed consistently and in a transparent manner - Leave no room for me to second guess your intentions I am less likely to be in conflict with you if we share some aspects of commonality or relatedness. The more we share in common and the more times I have a positive interaction with you, the less chance there is for conflict.

Why I am in conflict with you…

I am in conflict with you because I don’t trust you.

I don’t trust you because you have done and said things that contradict what I think is acceptable.

Behaviours (actions and comments) that I find acceptable are ones which:

  • Show me respect
  • Support my efforts
  • Align with my values
  • Do not make me feel uncomfortable or confronted
  • Are displayed consistently and in a transparent manner
  • Leave no room for me to second guess your intentions

I am less likely to be in conflict with you if we share some aspects of commonality or relatedness.

The more we share in common and the more times I have a positive interaction with you, the less chance there is for conflict.


About the Author

Catherine Gillespie brings a wealth of skill to her clients. With particular expertise in teaching communication and workplace conflict resolution skills, Catherine has made a marked difference to the organisations she has worked with. She empowers teams and managers to adopt constructive styles that support harmony, productivity and progress in the workplace.