Why I am in conflict with you…
I am in conflict with you because I don’t trust you.
I don’t trust you because you have done and said things that contradict what I think is acceptable.
Behaviours (actions and comments) that I find acceptable are ones which:
- Show me respect
- Support my efforts
- Align with my values
- Do not make me feel uncomfortable or confronted
- Are displayed consistently and in a transparent manner
- Leave no room for me to second guess your intentions
I am less likely to be in conflict with you if we share some aspects of commonality or relatedness.
The more we share in common and the more times I have a positive interaction with you, the less chance there is for conflict.